It’s question and answers Tuesday again. Please keep your questions coming, whether you’re suffering with your own mental health and need advice or your just interested in the subject, I will do my best to answer your questions or pass you on to someone who can! Here are some of the most popular topics this week.
My doctor also referred me to a mental health support group. I had a community nurse come out to assess my needs. This was all done in the comfort of my own home. I had been diagnosed with an anxiety disorder as well as the depression and so my care package was centered around this. I didn’t think they would be able to help me, as I wouldn’t be able to attend any of the groups, I was finding it hard enough just leaving the house! Instead of this I was designated a support worker to come out to me. I was introduced to them gradually and when I felt comfortable with him, even then, everything was done at my own pace. We did something called graded exposure work which over a long period of time encouraged me to take small steps to doing more things on my own, such as walking to the corner shop, which at the time seemed like an impossible task.
You may need one to one support, like I did, or you may benefit from group therapy with people who can relate to your illness. There are many fantastic support groups out there and your doctor will advise you on the ones available in your area. If you prefer, or don’t have the confidence to attend, such groups can also be found online. I appreciate it’s an effort to interact with people when you have depression but try your best not to become isolated, It’s not an illness you can battle on your own.
You may also benefit from reading my blog, in-particular the strength in numbers post. I hope I have been of some help.
I believe we’re here to learn and we’re all dealt a certain hand, we need to try to make the most of what we’ve got and appreciate what opportunities arise for us. Its all a learning curve. Yes there are people who appear to be blessed to have blissful lives but probably not as many as you think and there’s likely to be plenty a lot worse off than you. Life’s not easy and most people really struggle at stages of it. Sometimes, looks can be deceiving, someone could be rich and have all that they need material wise, but lack a loving family. I know which I’d rather have. On bad days I have to cope with much inner pain, that’s hard for people to understand unless they have depression. On days like this I wish they could feel how I feel, but it also makes me appreciate life when I’m having a good day. You just have to accept your limitations( we all have them!) and make the most of what you’ve got.
All therapists will have a consent form for you to sign before your first session and also a list of there policies and procedures. In this list it should state that all information provided by you will be kept in strict confidence. The only time it can be shared with a third party is if your therapist believes you to be an immediate risk to yourself or to others.
My biggest conflict of course has always been with myself, and with that self doubting voice we all have inside our heads. The one that puts you down constantly and tries to convince you you’re not good enough. I’m afraid proving that one wrong is an ongoing battle for me, but I will say I’m keeping it a lot quieter than it used to be!