Hello all, it’s Tuesday’s question time again. Here are some of the recent ones I’ve been asked and my responses to them. Please understand that I’m not a medical expert, I’m just giving my opinion
I have a job with a small company I don’t really like.
I look at peers profiles on linkedin and facebook and these guys are shooting through the roof. It depresses me. I have always had more interest in the qualitative aspects of life. In art, in travel, in getting to meet and know people.
Don’t judge yourself against the so called achievements of your friends. Social media can soon turn into a platform for bragging rights! when we die we can’t take anything with us, much more important are our personal experiences rather than how successful we are in our careers. Therefore in my opinion you have the perfect outlook on life. Keeping active and busy and looking after yourself by having a healthy lifestyle will also help you to feel better in yourself. The more interests you have, the better. If you do begin feeling down you can use hobbies as a great positive distraction. For more advice please view my looking after yourself post.
I have worked as a carer looking after people with severe physical disabilities. Some of which were wheelchair bound, and had limited to no movement at all. They needed washing and dressing and complete assistance with all aspects of their lives. Due to there conditions they were in constant pain and discomfort. One girl had up to 30 epileptic seizures a day and spent large periods of the day crying. She had tissue paper thin skin and visibly hurt every time we had to move or re position her. Inevitably the discussion of euthanasia came up regularly. a lot of the staff genuinely believed that she’d be better off not here, and indeed this would be the most humane thing to do. I for one disagreed with them. Every time we played her favorite lighthouse family CD she appeared happy and content, and when she was in the hydrotherapy pool she would smile throughout the morning. In other words there were still aspects of her life that gave her enjoyment. As long as someone has some kind of quality of life, then life is worth living.
Being shy and maybe a little more sensitive, is not such a bad thing. There actually good qualities to have. As you grow up people will find you intriguing and mysterious, and they will want to get to know you better. Remember some of the kids who seem confident on the surface might not be at all. Often people who come across as loud and brash, are actually just putting on a front to hide their insecurities. I include a post on my high school experiences in my blog, It’s called Beating The Bullies and it might be of interest to you.