Friend or Foe

friend or foe

Alcohol has played a significant role in my life. To be honest even though I say I like a drink, I’ve never really enjoyed the taste of it that much. I do like the way it affects me though (Most of the time!). I know it’s said to be a depressant but the truth is some of my happiest and funniest memories spent with friends have involved alcohol. On the flip side of this, when I think back to my saddest, most despondent moments in life, I tend to have a drink in my hand.

Without alcohol in my life I doubt if I’d have ever had a girl friend. I can be extremely shy, especially around the opposite sex and I would never have had the confidence to approach someone and tell them that I liked them, without the help of a few drinks, or nerve settlers as I call them. I genuinely believe that when I’ve had a few drinks I’m a more interesting person, as I become more outgoing and much less self-conscious. When I look in the mirror I don’t notice all my flaws, I actually see myself as not that bad looking at all! When I’m in a group I feel much less out of place, It’s easier to contribute to the conversation and I feel like I have as much right to be there as everyone else.

When I lived on my own I drank more frequently, every night to be precise. It quickly became part of my routine. I wasn’t used to being on my own and even though it had a number of positives, I also felt vulnerable at times. Having a few drinks on an evening helped me to relax and feel safe.

At the time I had an emotionally demanding job. There’s nothing worse than bringing your work home with you, but I had great trouble switching off at the end of my shifts. Alcohol helped me to de-stress and guaranteed me getting at least a little sleep. The trouble is it was never what you’d call a satisfying sleep. Often I’d wake up in the morning feeling very groggy and even more tired than when I went to bed.

friend or foe

At what stage does this become an issue? Over time the three cans of lager that used to be sufficient was having little to no effect. So soon three became four, and then four became five. Before I knew it I was having six strong beers a night, followed by a whisky nightcap. Often I didn’t make it up to bed, I would find myself comatosed on the sofa. I never woke up feeling refreshed, I never felt at all well! During the day I’d find myself going through all the motions but I’d be like a walking zombie and would struggle to concentrate on anything. It would really affect my mood too, leaving me feeling very withdrawn and thinking about nothing other than getting home to have my next drink.

At this time I was working for a charity, running drop in sessions for people with mental health issues. One young man who was a regular to the group, worked as a hospital porter. He claimed that the only way he could switch off on an evening was to have four pints before going to bed. He said that this was his way of getting to sleep. He asked me once if I considered him to be an alcoholic. I can’t remember exactly what my response was, but how could I possibly give him any constructive advice, when I was doing the exact same thing!

The definition of alcoholism is a condition in which dependence on alcohol harms a person’s health and everyday life. I had definitely become dependent on it and it was having a detrimental effect on my life. I recognized this and worked hard to do something about it.

The trouble with having an addictive personality is it’s far too easy to fall back into bad habits. I always have to be careful and guard against this happening. It’s the same for people who enjoy an occasional bet at the bookies or on the slot machines. This, like the alcohol can quickly get out of hand, as you begin to spend money you can’t afford to lose, it becomes an unhealthy addiction as you crave that adrenaline rush of winning, that sadly rarely comes. You start to genuinely believe that that law of averages have to swing in your favor, ‘Just one more bet can’t harm’ ‘Just one more drink’  but when does just one more become one too many?

I still like a drink but have to be disciplined and enjoy it in moderation. I’m not going to lie to you, I do slip up occasionally but I mostly stick to my strict ground rules. When I’m having a drink at home I never have more than three beers and I never drink two nights consecutively. If I’m feeling sad, I accept that drinking will only make me feel worse. But rightly or wrongly if I’m nervous about something, having a few drinks the night before, does seem to help, and if I’m out in company it helps me feel good about myself and interact better with people. Anything that does this can’t be that bad, can it?

You might consider my reliance on it to be a concern, but there’s a lot more people than me, that use alcohol as a crutch like this. How is having a glass of wine with your evening meal any different?

As for the question of Friend or Foe? I think the jury’s still out on that one. One thing I do accept is it can quickly get out of hand and I have to remain extremely careful.

Questions and Answers

It’s OK To Be Different

Perspective

Who cares if you don’t conform to societies expectations, the only opinion that truly counts is your own. What’s wrong with being a little bit different anyway? We’re all unique and we’re all special in our own way. At the same time though, to counteract that statement, we’re all equally insignificant in the grand scheme of things. Hundreds of years from now people aren’t likely to remember what you did in your lifetime. Whether you do good or bad, you’re successful or not, it’s not really important as memories of you will evaporate over time. So with all that in mind why on earth do we put so much pressure on ourselves?  It makes me laugh when we’re described as the superior species on the planet.

Its ok to be differentThis Zebra is able to walk within 20 minutes of being born and is running within it’s first hour! On the other hand, a human baby would take 14 to 15 months to accomplish the same fete.

 

Its ok to be differentThese ants can lift up to 50 times their own body weight and drag objects 30 times heavier than them. Remarkable creatures when you consider the equivalent would mean an average human being able to lift an Asian Elephant or a large transit van!

 

I love watching nature programs and discovering interesting facts such as these. They remind me that we’re all just animals after all and we all have the same right to live on this planet as anything else does, no more or no less. We are a tiny part of something much greater than we’ll ever fully understand. For the deep thinkers amongst us it’s pointless trying to over complicate things, you can spend your whole life searching for answers and end up regretting the time you’ve wasted! Life is far to short and far to precious to do this.

It’s OK To Be Different

On a Saturday night I love nothing more than sitting in front of the tele with a lager in my hand, watching ‘match of the day’, normally whilst shouting abuse at the referee and cursing my team for not scoring enough goals. Some might call this laddish behavior but I won’t, as I don’t want to be accused of sexism! Earlier in the evening I’d watch a romantic comedy staring Jenifer Aniston, I have to admit I do like a good rom-com. I’d follow this by watching my favorite couples on ‘strictly come dancing’ (hardly the most masculine of programs!)

I like watching ‘top gear’ but I’m also a big fan of ‘the great British bakeoff’. I enjoy watching the soaps such as ‘Coronation Street’ but also like series such as ‘the walking dead’- a bloodthirsty program about flesh eating zombies.

I think of this as being unusual but maybe it’s not. Maybe it’s just unusual that I admit to having such random taste. I’m sure there’s lots of closet fans out there who secretly watch ‘X factor’ on a Saturday night and then tell their friends that they’d never watch such rubbish!

I am a sensitive, giving person but equally at times I can come across as resolute and unyielding. You could describe some of my traits, as being masculine but it’s also fair to say I have a number of feminine qualities. In the past I’ve enjoyed a night out with the lads, drinking pints and propping up the bar, but I’ve had just as much fun being out with the girls drinking cocktails and dancing the night away. I’m sorry if this is coming across as stereotyping, it just happens to be how it is for me with my friends. The truth is I’m able to contribute well to both sets of groups but don’t find myself a perfect match to either.

The happiest people in life are those who couldn’t care less what others think of them. Having their own unique identity and never being ashamed of who they are. This is the sort of person I’m striving to be and even though I’m becoming less self-conscious all the time, I still have a long way to go.

Who’d of thought this menacing looking guy would be into decorating fairy cakes and flower arranging! before anyone comments I know he’s a cartoon character, but you get the gist!

 

   The sad reality is that I know people like this, who would hide such guilty pleasures in an attempt to keep up their macho persona. Who are so terrified of other peoples judgement, they keep secret the things that they love to do. Going back to our menacing looking friend above, why would he be so reluctant to share his passions. There’s nothing there to be ashamed of after all and it would only be a narrow-minded person who thought any differently. The fact that he has these hidden depths makes him so much more intriguing. I play table tennis in the local league, I’m ashamed to say I kept this fact from past girlfriends as I presumed they’d laugh at me. One in particular I didn’t tell for 6 months! I even invented a night school college course, to explain where I was every Wednesday night. Looking back now, I can’t believe what lengths I went too.

I’ve spent the majority of my life attempting to fit in with certain groups of people. You could say I’ve failed miserably at this, or you could say that it’s took me until now to realize that it’s perfectly ok to be different, in fact it’s great to be an individual. If everyone was the same the world would be an exceedingly dull place. Sometimes the best thing you can do is accept that you’re unique and stop trying so hard to be something you’re not. This is a brave thing to do and people will envy you for it, they might even wish they were more like you themselves.

 

 

 

 

 

Questions and Answers

Here is some of this weeks questions and my responses to them.

What should you do if you are depressed?

You’re going to get lots of people answering this question by saying exercise regularly or do any kind of physical activity. Keeping yourself busy and your mind occupied is also good advice. Using mindfulness to help you to live in the present and not think too far into the future is important too.

All this is great advice but I think the best thing you can try to do is to continue to live your life. I know this is much easier said than done. You’re going to have bad days, in my experience some really bad ones! This you need to try to accept, but you also need to make the most of your good days. When your feeling terrible always remember, tomorrow the suns going to rise on a brand new day. It’s important not to give up, by living your life and embracing the moments, in effect you’re putting two fingers up to your depression ( figuratively speaking!)

Don’t Quit

When things go wrong, as they sometimes will.

When the road you’re trudging seems all uphill.

When the funds are low and the debts are high.

And you want to smile, but you have to sigh.

When care is pressing you down a bit.

Rest if you must, but don’t you quit.

Success is failure turned inside out.

The silver tint of the clouds of doubt

And you never can tell how close you are.

It may be near when it seems so far.

So, stick to the fight when you’re hardest hit.

It’s when things go wrong that you mustn’t quit.

I think my girlfriend might have depression, but doesn’t want to get help. How can I convince her, or help her?
Edit: I know some of the problems that she had in her past, and I think there’s a connection between her depression and her problems. She keeps saying that she doesn’t want to live a long life or want to be happy.

Seeing someone you love struggling like this and refusing to get help must be extremely tough, I have never been in this position. But I am battling my own depression and accepting it took me along time. In my opinion, Pushing her into getting the help will not work, it will only result in alienating you. Yes gently reminding her that there’s lots of help out there is not a bad thing, but don’t over do it. She needs to make this decision herself. You therefore need to be patient and empathetic towards her, try to offer her reassurance and remind her what a great person she is and why you love her as much as you do. Also when she’s having a day where she’s feeling less down, try to encourage her to have some fun, a gentle reminder to her that life’s not all bad. At the same time remember about your own health. There are support groups out there for you too, with like minded people who will be able to advise you better than I can. Sometimes taking a step back might sound cruel but it can be healthy for both of you. Try to include more people if you can, such as friends and family.

If it ever gets to a stage where you are concerned about her immediate state of mind and that she might be a danger to herself, then there are crisis numbers you can phone, you will find these on any of the big mental health websites such as Mind. I hope you don’t need these and your girlfriend accepts the help in her own time. Remember to be patient. The acceptance post on my blog may be of some use to both of you.

How can I overcome nervousness?

For as long as I can remember I’ve always suffered greatly from nerves, long before I was diagnosed with an anxiety disorder. Its the fear of the unknown that leads to my nervousness, not to mention that inner self doubting voice that we all have. Repetition and familiar routine are what work best for me. If you do something enough it becomes second nature and you’re able to switch onto auto pilot. This can even work when facing up to your fears, as you become comfortable and self-assured in what you’re doing, you soon start to wonder what it was you were worried about in the first place.

So providing I know what’s expected of me and I have the capabilities to accomplish the task in hand, I have succeeded in overcoming my nerves, haven’t I? Sadly as you know life doesn’t work like this. For me, extensive planning works to a point, in limiting the number of surprises, but it doesn’t eliminate them all together. Its impossible to plan for every eventuality and for times when you can’t do this, you need some other coping strategies.

Breathing your way to success! Controlling your breathing by taking deep breathes in through your nose and out through your mouth. Focusing on your chest rhythmically rising and falling, Concentrating on this alone and trying to slow everything else down and remain in that present moment.

Using positive reminders, such as a mantra that you use on a daily basis. Words such as “I am calm and assured and in total control” Repeating a statement like this over and over in your head, until eventually you start to believe it. Having positive messages written down and reading them before I leave the house also works for me. Some of these things may sound simple but you’ll be surprised how beneficial they can be.

When should we accept our weaknesses and when not to?

We’re all only human, nobody is perfect. Its important to accept you have certain limitations, if you don’t, life could cause you much distress. But it’s also important to remember to keep challenging yourself and that it’s possible to overcome some of our weaknesses and even turn them into strengths. Finding a happy medium is what’s the key, and not giving yourself too hard a time. Also not viewing every failed attempt as a weakness.

Thomas Edison wrote ‘We haven’t failed. We now know a thousand things that won’t work, so we’re that much closer to finding what will.’ 

 

Just a quick Thank you!

Hi everyone, I just wanted to say a big thank you to you all for continuing to visit my site and sending me such kind comments. Unfortunately and frustratingly I have a problem with my email at the moment, so I haven’t been able to respond to each one individually, but needless to say I am extremely grateful. The last few weeks have been hard for me, for some reason my emotions have been all over the place! Getting such positive feedback in the last couple of days has given me a real boost. Whilst I continue to battle my own depression, the thought that my writing is being of some help to others, gives me a real incentive to carry on.

I’ve been receiving numerous questions about how to start your own blog and HTML coding (what ever that is!) The truth is I am far from an expert, in fact I only have very basic computer knowledge and I continue to learn as I go. I also continue to get stuck on a daily basis! From the start, I have used a book called blogging for dummies, which is very self explanatory and gives you a step by step guide (in simple English!) This is what I would recommend.

I will be back tomorrow with my usual Tuesday questions and answers. Thanks again for your support.

Strength In Numbers

People with depression often push others away, I did for a long time. The reason being, I didn’t feel worthy of the support and didn’t want to inflict my current self onto people who I cared for. I was also confused and struggling to get my head round how I was feeling, so how could I possibly expect anyone else to understand? Including others, felt like too much of an effort, I was already exhausted, it felt like I was trudging through mud whilst lost in a deep fog, why would I ever inflict this onto somebody else. You feel unworthy of the help and they feel hopeless for not being able to provide it! You might believe that accepting the help is putting an unnecessary burden on them, but for them not being able to help is much more damaging. Why not have strength in numbers and battle it together. Opening up was far from easy for me but every time I felt a huge sense of relief and I was left pleasantly surprised by their reactions.

It’s easy to pre-empt how you think others view you and your illness, but I have to admit, most of the time I was completely wrong with each of my presumptions.

A MOTHERS PERSPECTIVE

strength in numbers

My mum wrote the following passage and I thank her for her honesty.

When a newborn baby is put into your arms there’s a special bond that can’t be broken and as they grow it doesn’t wane at all.

A maternal instinct is an extremely powerful thing, as most mothers would confirm.

From the very first moment of their lives your protection instinct kicks in and you’re lost in admiration of the tiny infant in your care.

All you want to do is protect them from harm, in any way that you can but life is sadly not like that and there are times when there is nothing you can do to take their pain away.

As they grow your concerns are always there as you want the very best for them and when they go to school you leave them at the gates with feelings of trepidation.

Letting go has always been a difficult thing for me and both of my sons would probably tell you that I wear my heart on my sleeve and whenever one of my siblings hurt, I hurt too.

It has therefore been a very difficult time to see one of them struggling with health issues without understanding or being able to help. Broken bones can be easily fixed and although traumatic at the time can soon be forgotten by all concerned. Other childhood illnesses often cause a certain amount of sleepless nights but generally don’t take to long to get over.

An illness that cannot be categorised in a straightforward way seems much more frightening and difficult to comprehend for all concerned. The only way to help I find is to be there for them, when they need you. There’s a fine line between helping and hindering and I have to admit that there are times when I feel that I get it slightly wrong but I try to learn from my mistakes. Sometime having a stranger in your midst is not easy to accept as your son is hidden from view quite a bit due to the illness, which envelops him.

When I see glimpses of him returning, be it a smile that isn’t forced or a mischievous glint in his eyes, I know that he’s going to be all right.

strength in numbers

 

Sometimes you can be so wrapped up in your own personal battles that you forget how your health issues are affecting your loved ones. Living with depression, is not only hard for you but also really difficult for those most close to you. I get questions posted to me all the time, from people desperate for advice on how to help someone they love, who has a mental health illness. Yes it’s hard for them but believe me it would be even harder and more painful if you excluded them all together.

It troubles me when I read my mother describing it as, sometimes like living with a stranger, but I guess that’s the reality at the moment. I can be quite distant at times and when I’m feeling down, I don’t always manage to hide it.

Desperately wanting to help someone but not knowing how to go about it must be extremely frustrating. What’s Important to remember is, often just being there for us can be hugely beneficial.

Brotherly Love?

The first time my brother witnessed me having a panic attack, we were in a busy farm shop. Previous to this I’d felt my anxiety rising. In truth I just wanted to get the hell out as quickly as possible. Unfortunately there were factors that prevented this. Firstly there appeared to be queues everywhere and I wasn’t sure which one we should be in. Secondly my brother was in slow chilled out mode and wanted to browse the store! Of course he had no idea of my urgency to escape and the pending doom that was now suffocating me. Instead he said ‘calm down, whats up with you!’ and even began to laugh. He presumed I was playing some practical joke on him. It wasn’t until I was bent over hyperventilating that he realized it was no joke.   I didn’t blame him for his reaction, you can’t expect someone to immediately understand if they’ve never seen you like this. Later, outside in the car park he was extremely apologetic and needed plenty of reassurance that I was alright.

Obviously now it’s different. He doesn’t make a big deal of it but also knows that me having a panic attack whilst we’re out, is always a possibility. The same goes for my friends who are all aware of my illness. At the time I chose to suffer it in silence and not include people. My panic attacks have become less frequent of late, as I have learnt several coping methods and know what situations to try and avoid. People now being aware alleviates some of my anxieties as they’re no longer shocked by me, instead they know how to respond in a helpful manner. This can include keeping calm and getting me to fresh air or a quieter environment. Using mirroring techniques to help me control my breathing. Most importantly they’re able to offer copious amounts of reassurance, which is precisely what I need in these terrifying moments.

Battling your mental health is hard but made easier with strength in numbers

strength in numbers

 

 

 

 

Questions and Answers

Here are some of this weeks questions and my responses

How do I ease depression naturally?

Depression is a terrible all consuming illness. When it hits you, it hits you hard. On bad days I feel like its beating me into submission. It’s like I’m stuck in quick sand and it’s pointless fighting it as I’ll just sink deeper, risking being completely overwhelmed by it. On such days I try to use one of my positive mantras to remind me that there is still hope. I say to myself ‘tomorrow the sun will rise on a new day’ meaning even though I’m feeling like crap right now, soon I will have a chance to start a fresh. I have learnt to accept my bad days and in turn I appreciate my good ones much more, and make the most of these moments of respite.

So In answer to your question, it’s not easy to ease depression naturally, I rely heavily on my medication. However there are simple things you can do such as having hobbies and interests you can use as a welcome distraction. I often go outside and do some gardening. I figure If I’m going to be sat feeling miserable I might as well be miserable outside doing something useful! Once I concentrate on the task in hand and start to see my progress, I begin to feel a little better in myself. Any kind of exercise is good as it results in endorphin’s being released in your brain that make you feel happier.

reading, writing, cooking, listening to music, painting, it doesn’t really matter it’s what ever works for you. I find looking through old photo albums and reminding myself of happier times can sometimes be of benefit.

All these things aside though, sometimes I just have to accept and go with it, remembering that tomorrow is a new day.

What is an effective treatment for generalized anxiety disorder without medication? I’ve been experiencing this illness for almost 10 years.

Surround yourself with as many positive people as you can. My friends are like a huge protective bubble for me.

Visit online support groups to here from like minded people and gain advice, but if these people become too negative remove yourself immediately.

Counselling helped me. I appreciate it’s not for everyone but I found it easier to open up to a stranger who had managed to create a safe environment for me to do so. It also helped me understand myself better and what triggered my anxiety attacks. This in turn made them easier for me to manage.

Graded exposure therapy has and continues to be a huge benefit for me. Not long since I was at a stage were I was too anxious to leave the house on my own. I had a carer come and take me out, but a friend is just as good. We would have a set plan such as getting to the corner shop and back and we would brake it down into manageable sectors. Every week I would try to get to the next sector on my own. Gradually as my confidence increased I was able to achieve my goal. This can work on smaller or larger challenges, you just need someone you can trust and who has a lot of patience.

Mindfulness meditation and simple breathing exercises helps me to remain in the present and concentrate on the task in hand. It stops me looking to far ahead, which is one of the main factors of my anxiety. I recommend a book called ‘mindfulness for dummies’ to get you started.

Finally I recommend you view my post on living with anxiety and depression. In this I share several coping methods which have worked for me.

What should I do if I hate my life?
This question was asked by a thirteen year old girl who divulged much more information about her state of mind. I have chosen not to include this for her own dignity, but needless to say I was very saddened by her story and it took me back to my own experiences as a teenager. When people are in such a low place it’s very difficult to know what to same to be of any comfort. I was desperate to help her but the truth is she needs more professional advice than I’m able to offer. Never the less I tried to answer her question.

My Answer  

I’m so sorry that your feeling this way, it sounds like your having a difficult time at the moment. At your age I had an extremely low opinion of myself, in fact I hated most things about myself. I struggled fitting in and thought that I hated life. I was encouraged to go to the doctors who decided to get me an appointment with a child psychologist. This was the best thing for me, it really helped to have someone to open up to who didn’t judge me. He gave me some great advice and taught me the importance of standing tall and being proud of myself. I really think you would benefit from having someone to talk too.

You say that your ugly but I doubt very much this is true. Its so easy to stand in front of a mirror and work your way from head to toe, highlighting all the things your not happy with. We all do this at some point, but what you have to remember is what you see in yourself is often a totally different person than what others see in you. Everyone is unique, we all come in various shapes and sizes, and were all attracted to different qualities in each other. Its ok to be different.

As for you feeling like you have no talent, I’m sure this isn’t true either. when you’re feeling down on yourself it’s hard to see the positive. But everyone is good at something and I bet you have a lot to offer, You just don’t realise your potential yet. Fair enough you don’t like yourself very much at the moment but you’re only 13, you’re changing all the time, your still discovering things. I’m still learning about myself and I’m 36!

 

In conclusion please don’t give up on yourself and please ask for help.

 

Inner Child

Yesterday in the park I witnessed a little boy seeing the water fountain turning on, As the water shot upwards, there was shear magical delight written all over his face, this was followed by uncontrollable fits of giggles.inner child In seeing this I couldn’t help but smile, but then it was tainted by a moment of sadness, as I asked myself, when was the last time I’d laughed like that? Seeing the world through the eyes of a child is a wonderful thing. It’s the lack of pretense that I really like, what you see is exactly what you get. If they’re happy the world knows they’re happy, and similarly if they’re sad they never hide their emotions. As adults we still have joyful moments, but we rarely allow ourselves to really let go and celebrate them. It’s like we’re scared that we’ll get judged badly for showing our true emotions. Worried about feeling out of control and drawing attention to ourselves, risking a blemish to our cool steely exterior! I think this is extremely sad, life is so short and will soon pass us all by, so why worry so much about what other people might think.

Channeling our Inner child

We all have an inner child in us fighting to get out and I think it’s important to let him out every so often. To a young child, life is a big adventure. They’re fascinated by everything they discover and they perceive the world in its simplest form. Become an adult and suddenly you lose all that, you notice less and everything becomes much more complicated. I appreciate that as an adult we have more responsibilities, but as far as complicating things and not following our instincts, I don’t think we help ourselves. They say that knowledge is power but I think in terms of happiness, too much knowledge can be a dangerous thing. As we constantly search for hidden depths in everything, we become more guarded and pessimistic, we soon completely lose the trusting nature we once had as a child.

inner child

As adults are we prohibited from having any fun? Is it a crime to act silly? If it is, I’m afraid I’m guilty as charged! It’s easier if you have kids of your own, a bit of tomfoolery is expected. I envy those of my friends who have children. They get to go to the seaside, dive around on the beach playing Frisbee and charge with their arms and legs flaying into the sea. They have the perfect excuse for channeling their inner child. But whats to stop us all doing the same thing? To occasionally lose your inhibitions and completely let go. If you’re worried about being locked up! you can always pick your moment or even do something silly in the comfort of your own home.

The other day I went to the park, at a time when I knew it would be quiet and the kids would be in school. I got on one of the swings and started to swing as high as I could. I lead my head right back and pointed my legs straight out in front of me. I could see only sky and I imagined myself flying through the air. I forgot where I was and more importantly, how old I was. The only slight reminder was the fact that I barely fit and the chains were digging into my sides! Other than that, I got completely lost in the moment and stayed like that for a good half an hour, as I completely lost track of time. If you’ve been a regular visitor to my blog you’ll realize that half an hour is a long time for me to be in this sort of situation. Normally I’d have to keep a close eye on my environment and would panic that someone was lurking round the corner, but on this occasion there was none of that. Being in-tune with my inner child like this, allowed me to feel more relaxed. Young children don’t have the same kind of anxieties. It’s only as an adult that these insecurities and irrational fears start to mount up.

 

 

 

In the blink of an eye my brother and I have turned into adults but the two cheeky chaps above still exist in us to this day and I wouldn’t want it any other way. 

 

 

 

 

So in conclusion, don’t neglect your inner child, It’s a huge and important part of you. I challenge you all to embrace this side and let it out more often. You might be surprised by how fun and precious life can still be.

 

 

Questions and Answers

Hello all, it’s Tuesday’s question time again. Here are some of the recent ones I’ve been asked and my responses to them. Please understand that I’m not a medical expert, I’m just giving my opinion

How do you not become depressed yourself when you live with someone who is depressed?